Yes, I have. It’s a part of the job, and it’s a part of education- but school can’t really prepare you for that. I’ve seen misscarriages and stillbirths.
Dealing with these things depends on the person, it depends on how you deal with loss and on how strong you are. It’s hard at first, no one can deny that.
There are a few things you have to remember when you’re dealing with misscarriages or stillbirths.First of all, it’s not your or your patient’s fault. Sometimes it just can’t be prevented and there’s nothing you can do. All you can do is stay with your patient (or leave them alone if that’s what they want), support them and comfort them. There’s often not a lot of things you can do to help them at first. Listen to them. Trying to understand how they feel will help you cope with it, it will help you find out what you can do for them and what they need in that moment.
Second of all, tell someone. Don’t keep it in. Tell your professor, your mentor, your friend, your classmate, your family. Tell someone, write down your feelings. It’s gonna help you understand, and someday it might help you help someone else.
There is a gazillion ways of dealing with loss, and each person does it on their own way. Death is a part of life - our lives and their lives. Sometimes life ends too soon, but that is a part of life too. There is no explanation.
Hope I helped.
Saturday was my last day in the delivery rooms. As a student, of course. i had quite a few interesting cases this week. One woman even gave birth in the car outside of the maternity hospital!
I have to say that leaving was a sad thing for me. I know that my college days are coming to an end. I still have one more year to write my thesis, but no more classes, no more clinicals, no more exams (well, one exam on Thursday).
Keep your fingers crossed for me on Thursday.
This week is a busy week! I’m back at the delivery ward, these are my last clinicals. Feels kinda weird, and sad, but I’m so proud of myself!
So Monday and Friday were kinda busy because we had a lot of planned cesareans and I mostly worked in the OR and ICU. The delivery ward was almost empty. I had one patient on Monday, but she ended up giving birth 6 hours after I left. She was really nice though.
Today was.. different. All of our delivery rooms were full. My first patient was a young girl. She had her husband with her and her mother. It was really nice. Her mom is a nurse (she works in the psychiatry ward), so she was really helpful. The husband was amazing too. he stayed with her, held her hands, encouraged her, they both masssaged her. It was really nice. :)
Then I had three more patients. I was running from one room to another. All three cartiotocographs were showing bradycardia. The first one went really quick, she gave birth soon after the pulse dropped, so everything went okay. The second one was okay too, the pulse raised and she gave birth about 30 minutes later. I was quite afraid for the last one. The pulse dropped and stayed at 95 for about 10 minutes, then raised, but started decelerating during contractions. One of the doctors wanted to wait to see what happens, the other one wanted to do a vacuum extraction. We decided to wait 10 more minutes. Luckily she gave birth. The baby was okay, but it was huge! Her first child had 2700 grams at birth, this one has 4460 grams! That’s a big difference. She was really tired at the end, but we motivated her and she did it. :)
I was so relieved that everything turned out okay for everybodyi n the end.
Otherwise I’m okay. I finish wih clinicals on Saturday,then I have my final practical on Thursday and then I’m done for the year.
How’s everyone doing?
I know I’ve been neglecting you people, but I’ve started my final clinicals on the L&D ward yesterday. I’m exhausted.
I promise I’ll write everything down tomorrow!
How have you guys been doing? What’s new?
Love you all!